Friendships goes both ways. Streets goes both ways. Phone lines (which I talked about last week) goes both ways. Respect goes both ways. SUPPORT goes both ways. How can you expect any of these things without giving it????
It amazes me how people can be there for you and when you need them they are either negative or just MIA. To have a successful relationship (romantic or platonic), support is a requirement. Why be around someone that you can’t depend on or you can lean on when needed? I am not talking about money or anything like that, I am talking about being a true SUPPORTER. As women, we need to stop criticizing each other so much and be more of a friend/supporter. I hate to say race plays a part, but I see more and more black women plotting against each other instead of working with each other. Other nationalities don’t do each other like we do each other. We tear each other down so much and for what??? How can you expect to grow as a person or as a business when you are ‘hating’ on someone else? There’s enough money and business out here for everyone to get some, there is no need to try and stop someone from prospering.
Now, I am not saying to support nonsense. If you see someone making a less then logical decision, as a friend you should express your concern. HOWEVER, there is a tactful way of doing this also. Being aggressive and overly negative will make anyone shut down and not listen to a damn thing you are saying. Also, if it’s illegal you don’t have to support that either. LOL! What I am saying is this…if you have a friend starting a business or starting a new relationship and they seem GENUINELY happy, don’t ish on them! Don’t talk negative or say what you would have done or could have done differently. My thing is if you had all these ideas about something, you would be doing it yourself. How are you going to have all these opinions and say what you would do if you don’t have a successful business or relationship? If you knew everything, you would be in a better position. Stop being a Debbie Downer, be a supportive friend that others will want to share their news with instead of dreading to tell you. Lastly, support does not always have to mean money being exchanged either…it could also be referring them to other people, promoting them on Social Media, or simply just giving them props.
Be encouraging to your Friends. Don’t shoot down every idea they may have. Stop telling them what they did wrong and tell them what they did right. Stop holding them down and LIFT THEM UP!! Don’t be that friend we handle with a long wooden spoon.