In my opinion, Social Media is a place to interact with your friends and family, share valuable information that could help others, promote businesses, and promote events. I’ve always tried to stay away from Politics and Religion on Social Media; many relationships have ended because of these 2 topics. I thoroughly enjoy Social Media because I don’t get involved in Social Media ‘beef’, I don’t talk about things that can clearly cause conflict, and I keep most of my business to myself. Don’t get me wrong, I may vent about something but I am not going to get into specifics or get too deep into what’s going on. I have people that I am close to that I can divulge all the details to, I don’t have to spill the beans on Facebook and IG. Here is my issue, let’s say you are one of those that put ALL of their business on Social Media. My question is this, why get mad when someone asks questions about what YOU posted for the world to see? Why catch and attitude and shut down because someone is inquiring or even commenting on what you posted?
I am not here to tell you what to and not to post on your Social Media accounts, but what I am saying is that if you don’t want the feedback or negative responses maybe you shouldn’t post some of the things you are posting. You must remember, just because people are your ‘friends’ on Social Media does not mean they are your ‘friends’ in real life. Some folks simply DGAF about you or what you’re going through. Some people troll Social Media to find their next victims just so they can make you feel even worse!
I know life happens to everyone and some things happen that are beyond our control. Social Media should not be the place where we try to find a resolution or solace. We all need a support system, someone (multiple someone’s) we can share our problems with. Also, a lot of us have programs at work where you can go talk to someone that is totally unbiased to your situation (EAP – Employee Assistance Programs). Lastly, I know black people as a culture don’t believe in going to Therapy….stop that! There is nothing wrong with going to Therapy, talking to someone that genuinely cares about your well-being. Take this from someone that was really stressed out a couple of years ago and went to talk to a Therapist. I swear that was the best outlet ever and you know why?? Cause she knew NONE of the people I was talking about! LOL! Going helped me put a lot of things into perspective and change the way I felt about certain things. I will leave that for another post though….LOL!
Your business ain’t for everybody!! Be discreet with whom you share your very personal business with because if they aren’t your true friends, they will throw it up in your face every time they can and they will be extremely negative. You don’t need that kinda mess in your life, in addition to the drama you are already going thru. Discretion is KEY!!!